The best way to tender apology to your partner when you go wrong


Often times we offend our partner and try to make up for the wrong but the way we go about it matters a lot. In doing this we should not go the wrong way there by adding salt to injury thinking that we are trying to make peace. Do not use the wrong words to apologize like:




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1. Laying blame on something else
Accept responsibility instead of blaming it on the shitty day you had at work – people have terrible days every time and never take it out on their partners. Don’t blame it on alcohol or mood or other things either.


2. Remind them of how good you’ve been
That you have been good for so long does not excuse you from apologizing and doing it right when you have messed up. No matter how good you have been to your partner, the possibility of making mistakes is still there, and your partner retains the right to be hurt, even if you stepped on their toes only once in a while.

3. An apology doesn’t mean anything if you say it with an attitude
People notice it if your words are “I’m sorry” but your tone is “does not show remorse” The words aren’t enough. Tone is everything.



4.  Point out they once did the same thing
It doesn’t matter if this partner once did the same thing to you. When apologizing, no need to mention that. Offering a qualified apology washes away its quality. Just take responsibility and offer a remorseful one.



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5. Making it out to be a smaller deal
Don’t try to downplay what you did. All the talking in the world won’t minimize the pain you caused the other person. You can’t get someone to rationalize away their feelings. If you are apologising, don't do it with the intent of making your partner feel like they are overreacting. Their hurt feelings are valid and you should acknowledge that.

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